Living without a friend is useless. This expression can take its meaning being a paradox. It’s a hard nut to crack when picking best friends. Beauty, skin color, origin, teeth, dressing and smile cannot determine the choice of a best friend. This outwardness may develop thorns to fringe you later. I do not suppose it’s that easy as it’s not easy to study life of an individual in a day.
But who is a best friend?
To sharpen understanding, they are not them who rush to conclusion of annoying you soon. Not even them, who help if you are in need, are the best friends. This is because some people befriend you to be praised, spoil you or expose secrets about you. Some people who give with ease gossip with ease. Luck remains for in spite of these problems a good friend is got in a day.
What to keep in mind is, if poor, you cannot deny it unless if ridiculed. Knowing of this fact can open ways of success rather than pretending. You will pretend until you discover you have not climbed any ladder. Friends can be helped as well. Don’t think your friend is whom you depend on. Friendship should be mutual. If you have yours, you can share it with others to improve their lives. With glittering things, chased after you by force, know that sorrow chases after them as well. Accept gifts from people you did not know who have let you know what they are up to and who they are or need to be to you.
Once a gift is given by a pretending friend, hatred shows on the face suddenly. This makes you distinguish a hearty gift from a worse one.
A kind of changeable relationship too exists. Here, friendship takes a short length of time. These kinds of friends like new things. If they find new friends, it is their desire. They keep changing from one friend to another till their world ends not knowing what exactly a friend is. Do not waste time with them. They disclose secrets, therefore, not well for your health.
Love making too is dangerous geared by jealousy and may wreak havoc. Not all relationships between different gender parties lead to marriage. In my culture, a man pays bride price to the bride’s parents to pay them back for their good care. This does not mean my culture is the best. A contrast is that forced marriage is a stuff of my culture. No child is required to disobey parents for it is considered a disgrace to the family. The hardest thing had been to get a true Dinka married to a foreigner. Many cultures are alike, others are parallel. One can stick to their culture where it demands to save you.
I was once traveling to South Sudan from Kakuma Refugee Camp. On my arrival, in Lokichogio, there were no vehicles. The only lorry we got could not make it because it was rushing to evening and in South Sudan, no travels were expected at night. This was my first time to go to Sudan after completing my secondary education. I had no place to sleep. I was with a friend whom I met when I came to Kakuma from Eldoret, two days before this Journey. “Abraham, where are you putting up tonight?” he asked.
“I do not know any place here,” I replied. This friend took me to his friends. We spent the night there and continued our journey the following day. Do you need a friend as such?
It looks like it has God’s control. Even when you pronounce the words, “My friend” to describe your various friends, the accent differs. While greeting, a hateful face can be seen not by you. You hug keeping a foe in your arms. A few days back I was cheated to pay a clearance fee in order to receive my compensated fund. I ended up at a loss. If you were the one, what would you have done?
Dear friends, have a secure life. Neither go for fraud nor enter their traps. Investigate well how you won. Delay the word “friend” before it can create friendship. Control your likes of what belongs to other people. Do not be ridden into misdeeds of crimes, drugs and drunkenness. Befriend after a long and successful study. If relatives are harsh, friends are helpful. This explains why many people live with friends across the globe. Choose them wisely, who keep you in mood.